I recently had a conversation with a parent regarding parents disciplining their child or more specifically NOT disciplining them. I have a fairly nice collection of Parenting Books that I suggest and loan to parents on a regular basis. I recently got a new one from Amazon titled... Making Children MIND Without Losing YOURS. I've only read a few pages of it, but here are a few things that have stood out to me that I wanted to share.
Raising a child these days can be very scary. Is it possible to bring up good children in such a crazy age?Sure, it's possible. But it's still scary.
Ever hear the term "it takes a village to raise a child"? We don't need the community to raise our children, we don't need the schools to do it, we don't need the government telling us how, we don't even need the church's to do our child rearing for us....we need parents to step up and do it. And we need everyone else - community, school, government, church - to support the parents in their efforts.
The time has come for an idea I call reality discipline. It's consistent, decisive, and respectful way for parents to love and discipline their children. {Notice I said "discipline" and not "punish". I said "love"and not "smother love".
Children, obey your parents, this is the right thing to do because God has placed them in authority over you. Honor your father and mother. This is the first of God's Ten Commandments that ends with a promise. And, this is the promise, that if you honor your father and mother, yours will be a long life, full of blessings. And now a word to you parents. Don't keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful. Rather, bring them up with the loving discipline the Lord himself approves, with suggestions and godly advice. The words I want to pay particular attention to are "obey", "authority", and "loving discipline".
Do I reccomend spanking? I believe spanking has a place, but in most cases it should not take first place. At the same time, I strongly believe that when we discipline children, their psyches are not in danger.
As parents we are all "Home-Schoolers". We should be teaching our kids every day that there are consequences for their actions, some positive and some negatives. That's one of the most important things they'll ever learn.
That's as far as I've gotten, but I have to say I will be reccomended this book!
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
Day Book
For Today....Monday, January 18, 2010
Outside My Window....it is dark and cool
I am Thankful....for my life
I am Praying....for the families in Haiti and for my oldest daughter Kristen who is having a bout with depression.
From The Kitchen....take out chinese tonight, Tues. Grilled Chicken, corn and yellow rice. Wed. Chicken Casserole, fresh steamed broccoli, Thurs. left over casserole
From The Learning Rooms at The Preschool....Community Workers and Helpers, Mid Year Testing, CF Walkathon on Fri.
I am Reading....I just finished Light In The Snow
I am Hoping...to hire a new teacher soon...very very soon!
I am Hearing...the tv and the dryer
Around The House...well I cleaned today, and I'm finishing laundry now
A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week....just trying to keep my head above water at the Preschool, its very difficult being so short handed!!!
Outside My Window....it is dark and cool
I am Thankful....for my life
I am Praying....for the families in Haiti and for my oldest daughter Kristen who is having a bout with depression.
From The Kitchen....take out chinese tonight, Tues. Grilled Chicken, corn and yellow rice. Wed. Chicken Casserole, fresh steamed broccoli, Thurs. left over casserole
From The Learning Rooms at The Preschool....Community Workers and Helpers, Mid Year Testing, CF Walkathon on Fri.
I am Reading....I just finished Light In The Snow
I am Hoping...to hire a new teacher soon...very very soon!
I am Hearing...the tv and the dryer
Around The House...well I cleaned today, and I'm finishing laundry now
A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week....just trying to keep my head above water at the Preschool, its very difficult being so short handed!!!
Monday, January 11, 2010
A Fun Day Back With The Baby Ducks
Another Facebook Note
It was like the first day of school all over for me today. I woke at 5:30 and couldn't go back to sleep, I was really looking forward to seeing my Baby Ducks {it had been nearly 2 1/2 weeks!}. I wanted to look extra sassy so, I got up to get my outfit all put together and to make sure my hair looked just perfect {LOL}. I got to work and opened the door about 8 minutes early to those parents who were waiting {eagerly panting!} to drop their little ones off. I got lots of hugs {no better way to start your day!} and heard many sweet voices say "Miss Shawnie I really missed you"! "Miss Shawnie I love you", "Miss Shawnie, you look so cute today"{told you I had an extra sassy outfit on!}, "Miss Shawnie did you miss me?" and "Ohhhh...Miss Shawnie I like your boots" LOL!!!! During Circle Time I explained that I was going to go around the circle and wanted to hear from each friend what "their favorite Christmas gift was". Some favorites were: scooters, babies, Leap Frogs, castles, bikes, Wii's, etc... I told the friends that it sounded as if they got some awesome toys, then I said well I didn't get a scooter or a new bike or any Little Pet Shops toys....BUT! "Look What Mr. Mike Gave Me"! BAM!!!! A BIG OLE RING!!!! They all thought that was so funny and one little one said "Miss Shawnie you really are a Queen"!!!!! LOL.. Then we moved to art, since we are coming back mid week we are doing a theme on "Snow" {how fitting, since it's freezing out}instead of introducing a new letter. So, today's Art Project was a "Snow Man". I started drawing a snow man to give as an example except, I said since I was a girl I was making a "snow girl" instead of a snow man. I added eyelashes, "sassy hair" and when I got to the scarf I said I was drawing a "boa" instead because everyone knows how much I love wearing feather boa's!! Then I asked for them to draw their own snow boy or snow girl. to add detail and to use their imagination. I saw alot of great snow girls and boys. There was one that I commented on because it looked "rather interesting" so, I asked the friend to tell me about it. It was a snow girl with eye lashes, a really cute bow in her hair and had "boobies". LOL!!!! I had a dad who was running just a few minutes late so, "I kept his daughter company" until he got there. I was coloring something {yes! I color!}for my bulletin board and my little friend was talking to me and helping me by handing me the color marker I needed next. After talking for a while she says to me "Miss Shawnie aren't you glad I was able to keep you company until my dad gets here"? {LOL} I said YES! I am so glad "you" were able to keep "me" company. Then this afternoon after my napping friends got up we were all talking and I looked at one of my little friends and said "Hey, I just realized what is so different about you" "You got bangs"! She said yes, my mom cut them, you know she's a Hair Stylist. I said Oh that's right maybe I'll get her to cut my hair because I want a saasy hair cut. She looked at me and said "But, Miss Shawnie you already have sassy hair" {LOL!!!} I said "Yea I know but, I want an extra sassy hair cut. She said ok, I'll tell my mom.
I LOVE my job!!
It was like the first day of school all over for me today. I woke at 5:30 and couldn't go back to sleep, I was really looking forward to seeing my Baby Ducks {it had been nearly 2 1/2 weeks!}. I wanted to look extra sassy so, I got up to get my outfit all put together and to make sure my hair looked just perfect {LOL}. I got to work and opened the door about 8 minutes early to those parents who were waiting {eagerly panting!} to drop their little ones off. I got lots of hugs {no better way to start your day!} and heard many sweet voices say "Miss Shawnie I really missed you"! "Miss Shawnie I love you", "Miss Shawnie, you look so cute today"{told you I had an extra sassy outfit on!}, "Miss Shawnie did you miss me?" and "Ohhhh...Miss Shawnie I like your boots" LOL!!!! During Circle Time I explained that I was going to go around the circle and wanted to hear from each friend what "their favorite Christmas gift was". Some favorites were: scooters, babies, Leap Frogs, castles, bikes, Wii's, etc... I told the friends that it sounded as if they got some awesome toys, then I said well I didn't get a scooter or a new bike or any Little Pet Shops toys....BUT! "Look What Mr. Mike Gave Me"! BAM!!!! A BIG OLE RING!!!! They all thought that was so funny and one little one said "Miss Shawnie you really are a Queen"!!!!! LOL.. Then we moved to art, since we are coming back mid week we are doing a theme on "Snow" {how fitting, since it's freezing out}instead of introducing a new letter. So, today's Art Project was a "Snow Man". I started drawing a snow man to give as an example except, I said since I was a girl I was making a "snow girl" instead of a snow man. I added eyelashes, "sassy hair" and when I got to the scarf I said I was drawing a "boa" instead because everyone knows how much I love wearing feather boa's!! Then I asked for them to draw their own snow boy or snow girl. to add detail and to use their imagination. I saw alot of great snow girls and boys. There was one that I commented on because it looked "rather interesting" so, I asked the friend to tell me about it. It was a snow girl with eye lashes, a really cute bow in her hair and had "boobies". LOL!!!! I had a dad who was running just a few minutes late so, "I kept his daughter company" until he got there. I was coloring something {yes! I color!}for my bulletin board and my little friend was talking to me and helping me by handing me the color marker I needed next. After talking for a while she says to me "Miss Shawnie aren't you glad I was able to keep you company until my dad gets here"? {LOL} I said YES! I am so glad "you" were able to keep "me" company. Then this afternoon after my napping friends got up we were all talking and I looked at one of my little friends and said "Hey, I just realized what is so different about you" "You got bangs"! She said yes, my mom cut them, you know she's a Hair Stylist. I said Oh that's right maybe I'll get her to cut my hair because I want a saasy hair cut. She looked at me and said "But, Miss Shawnie you already have sassy hair" {LOL!!!} I said "Yea I know but, I want an extra sassy hair cut. She said ok, I'll tell my mom.
I LOVE my job!!
Snow Man Poop
This is from a note I posted on Facebook.
Today was yet another great day at the Preschool! I'm here to have fun! I'm not a big disciplinarian, I don't always follow "my own rules", and 9 times out of 10 I'm the reason the Baby Ducks are being loud and out of control or the cause of big messes. Kinda like today with the shaving cream! We've been doing a really fun theme on snow and I've had shaving cream at the tables for the ducks to play in, smear on the tables and draw snowmen in. Today one of my little ones asked for my help in squirting out more shaving cream. As I started squirting it on the table I got tickled with what I was thinking and started giggling. The group of little ones wanted to know what I was laughing about and I said "Look {as I was squirting shaving cream} it's SNOWMAN POOP"!!!!!!!! Hahahahahahahahahahahaha...next thing I know everyone was coming over to see the SNOWMAN POOP!!!!!! I turned around for just a second and one little one is covered in shaving cream!! Miss Mary asked him how on earth he got covered in shaving cream...he says "What Shaving Cream"?? LOL...then I say "Oh, that's not shaving cream.....that's SNOWMAN POOP!!!!!! YES!!! It is soooooo good to be me!!!!
Today was yet another great day at the Preschool! I'm here to have fun! I'm not a big disciplinarian, I don't always follow "my own rules", and 9 times out of 10 I'm the reason the Baby Ducks are being loud and out of control or the cause of big messes. Kinda like today with the shaving cream! We've been doing a really fun theme on snow and I've had shaving cream at the tables for the ducks to play in, smear on the tables and draw snowmen in. Today one of my little ones asked for my help in squirting out more shaving cream. As I started squirting it on the table I got tickled with what I was thinking and started giggling. The group of little ones wanted to know what I was laughing about and I said "Look {as I was squirting shaving cream} it's SNOWMAN POOP"!!!!!!!! Hahahahahahahahahahahaha...next thing I know everyone was coming over to see the SNOWMAN POOP!!!!!! I turned around for just a second and one little one is covered in shaving cream!! Miss Mary asked him how on earth he got covered in shaving cream...he says "What Shaving Cream"?? LOL...then I say "Oh, that's not shaving cream.....that's SNOWMAN POOP!!!!!! YES!!! It is soooooo good to be me!!!!
Daybook
For Today...Monday, January 11, 2010
Outside My Window...it is dark and very cold
I am Thinking...that I'm tired of this cold weather, but will be hoping for it this summer when it feels like it's 110 outside.
I am Thankful...that our very old a/c/heating unit is holding out
I am Praying...that the Lord will continue to show me his love, patience, and guidance.
From The Kitchen...tonight: homemade spaghetti & meatballs. Tues: homemade salisbury steak, homemade chive & onion mashed potatoes, steamed green beans and french bread. Wed: leftover spaghetti & meatballs. Thurs: grilled blue cheese hamburgers, sweet potato fries
From The Learning Room At The Preschool...the Letter Ll...lion, lizard, lamb, lighthouse, lollipop, Landon, Lani, Leonie, Leyton and my friend Lorelai who I miss!
I am Reading...A Light In The Snow
I am Hoping...for a break with this drastic cold weather
I am Hearing...the TV and the girls in the background
Around The House...all is clean, we are expecting Mike's brother later this week. But, it would be clean even if he wasn't coming
A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week...I have a meeting Wed. night, Mike's brother and wife are coming sometime this week, Snow Day at the Preschool on Friday, and possibly a trip to Webster or St. Augustine on Monday since I will be off work.
Outside My Window...it is dark and very cold
I am Thinking...that I'm tired of this cold weather, but will be hoping for it this summer when it feels like it's 110 outside.
I am Thankful...that our very old a/c/heating unit is holding out
I am Praying...that the Lord will continue to show me his love, patience, and guidance.
From The Kitchen...tonight: homemade spaghetti & meatballs. Tues: homemade salisbury steak, homemade chive & onion mashed potatoes, steamed green beans and french bread. Wed: leftover spaghetti & meatballs. Thurs: grilled blue cheese hamburgers, sweet potato fries
From The Learning Room At The Preschool...the Letter Ll...lion, lizard, lamb, lighthouse, lollipop, Landon, Lani, Leonie, Leyton and my friend Lorelai who I miss!
I am Reading...A Light In The Snow
I am Hoping...for a break with this drastic cold weather
I am Hearing...the TV and the girls in the background
Around The House...all is clean, we are expecting Mike's brother later this week. But, it would be clean even if he wasn't coming
A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week...I have a meeting Wed. night, Mike's brother and wife are coming sometime this week, Snow Day at the Preschool on Friday, and possibly a trip to Webster or St. Augustine on Monday since I will be off work.
I'm Back!!
I have neglected my cottage, but I'm determined to start spending more time here. I can't believe how busy my life is. I thought with 2 children grown and living their own lives and with the 2 littles being 19 & 15 things would start to slow down for me a bit. But, I guess I forgot to factor in the 38 Baby Ducks I see to on a daily basis, a hubby who works erratic hours and that 15 & 19 year old that seem to need me just as much as they did when they were 3 & 4. I'm not sure where I got the idea things would slow down??!!
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