Parenting

I recently had a conversation with a parent regarding parents disciplining their child or more specifically NOT disciplining them. I have a fairly nice collection of Parenting Books that I suggest and loan to parents on a regular basis. I recently got a new one from Amazon titled... Making Children MIND Without Losing YOURS. I've only read a few pages of it, but here are a few things that have stood out to me that I wanted to share.

Raising a child these days can be very scary. Is it possible to bring up good children in such a crazy age?Sure, it's possible. But it's still scary.

Ever hear the term "it takes a village to raise a child"? We don't need the community to raise our children, we don't need the schools to do it, we don't need the government telling us how, we don't even need the church's to do our child rearing for us....we need parents to step up and do it. And we need everyone else - community, school, government, church - to support the parents in their efforts.

The time has come for an idea I call reality discipline. It's consistent, decisive, and respectful way for parents to love and discipline their children. {Notice I said "discipline" and not "punish". I said "love"and not "smother love".

Children, obey your parents, this is the right thing to do because God has placed them in authority over you. Honor your father and mother. This is the first of God's Ten Commandments that ends with a promise. And, this is the promise, that if you honor your father and mother, yours will be a long life, full of blessings. And now a word to you parents. Don't keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful. Rather, bring them up with the loving discipline the Lord himself approves, with suggestions and godly advice. The words I want to pay particular attention to are "obey", "authority", and "loving discipline".

Do I reccomend spanking? I believe spanking has a place, but in most cases it should not take first place. At the same time, I strongly believe that when we discipline children, their psyches are not in danger.

As parents we are all "Home-Schoolers". We should be teaching our kids every day that there are consequences for their actions, some positive and some negatives. That's one of the most important things they'll ever learn.

That's as far as I've gotten, but I have to say I will be reccomended this book!